Je t’aime, te amo, ich liebe dich and I love you – They all mean the same thing. Love is one of the most powerful emotions in the world and it is as addictive as chocolate and cheese. Love is said to come from the heart, but is that really the case or are we taking what has been said for hundreds of years as ‘gospel’?
The Western world’s first physician, Hippocrates, proposed in 450 B.C. that “Emotions emanate from the brain.” He was indeed correct.
Falling in love produces higher levels of dopamine, adrenaline and norepinephrine which all help to trigger specific physical actions. So when we see our beloved it is essentially the brain releasing chemicals that cause us to blush or our hearts to beat faster.
Todays Blogtober asks me to give you five ways to win my heart.
“Laughter is the sound of the soul dancing” – Jarod Kintz
I’m a tough cookie when it comes to making me laugh. I don’t particularly find present day humour funny. If somebody is trying too hard to be funny it puts me off. There is only one comedian who has managed to get me belly laughing, and so if you can compete with Michael McIntyre then you are winning.
A sucker for romance
“I want the fairytale.” With those immortal words Julia Roberts managed to inspire Richard Gere to conquer his fear of heights and climb halfway up an apartment building for her. I’m a big fan of romantic gestures.
It’s the little things I love. Those “Good morning beautiful” and “Call me when you’re home” texts. Making a mix tape (or whatever the equivalent is in this technological age) Handwritten notes and candlelit home cooked dinners. Board game nights or simply sat snuggled in front of Netflix. If you really want to seal the deal let me wear your hoody and I’ll never let you go!
Love me, love my family and friends
My family and friends are my life and I am very protective of them. If I like you enough to bring you into the inner circle then they need to be embraced as an extension of me.
My friends and family have been my supporting foundation when I have been both strong and broken. They have stood the test of time and a person will learn everything they need to know about me through them. So when your looking for forgiveness for whatever it is you’ve annoyed me with, chances are you’re gonna want to call my friends to find out what will work!
“Kindness is a gift everyone can afford to give” – Unknown
Kind souls are my kinda people. To be kind in a world that is often harsh and cruel is a beautiful accomplishment. Too often we become cynical to life and this rubs off in our daily interactions.
You can tell a lot about somebody by the company they keep. I choose to spend my time with beautiful human beings who radiate positive energy rather than those who drain me with negativity.
Honesty is the highest form of intimacy
Everybody has their own individual moral compass when it comes to honesty. Some people feel ‘white lies’ are acceptable if they they are protecting another whilst other people treat any lie as a complete lack of respect.
I haven’t always walked the right side of honesty and as a result I have hurt people I cared deeply about. In the past I have selfishly bent the truth at times to protect myself and I have told dozens of ‘little white lies’ in the name of ‘protecting’ those I care about. All this really does is create unesscessary drama and a heart full of burden/guilt.
Travelling alone this last year has given me time to think about the person I was vs the person I want to be. Honesty might be a difficult thing to give at times but it is always the best policy. I try to be as honest as I can in all of my interactions with people nowadays. Where there is honesty there is trust and what is friendship or love without that?